What About The Spirit Of The Law

So here's my question of the day, how do you "accidentally" lose your virginity? I mean if you get raped, that's not exactly accidentally losing your virginity, that's being raped. If you have sex, you have sex, period, end of story. I think Eminem put it best when he said, "what did she trip, fall, land on his dick?"

Well apparently one girl decided she was going to "save herself" for marriage. So what does she do? She only has "dry sex" with her boyfriend. Frankly, when the people who thought of the whole no sex still you're married thing thought of it, I'm assuming that they meant it to be a sacred thing, something you would follow not only to the letter of law, but in the spirit of the law. There's a grand idea. I mean would she give him blow jobs too because that's not technically sex?

Anyway, dry sex for them apparently was basically just him rubbing himself against her with or without a condom, but no penetration. Most peole look at dry sex as something has to do with still wearing the panties and so on. So apparently in one instance, it felt "different" only for him to then admit that they had sex, after it was over! Ok, so what about the panties thing first of all, that would be a part of "dry sex." But second, isn't that technically rape since she's told him before that she wanted to "save" herself and had pretty much not only not consented, but bluntly said no? Just a thought, but it seems like stupidity for one thing and rape for another.